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根据以下材料，回答题A．Count your blessings
B．Resist the urge to judge others
C．Stop living through social media
D．Drive down memory lane carefully
E．Look for commonalities, not differences
F．Figure out what you can and can't change
G．Talk to yourself with the same kindness you'd speak to a child
When you're already feeling unsure of yourself it seems like everyone has nicer hair, smarter kids, fancier vacations, cleaner homes, and cuter pets.And even if you do come out "on top" by comparison, you've subtly reinforced to your brain the importance of things like looks and material objects, making it so you'll feel even worse when you don't "win" the comparison wars.Here,top experts share their best tips for avoiding the comparison trap and increasing your personal happiness.
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Facebook,Instagram, Twitter, and the like can be a fun pastime, but their negative effects quickly become apparent, says Clarissa Silva, a behavioral scientist who studies the impact of social media on our lives.Everyone is showing their best selves online and we end up comparing our worst to their best.
"Since we're only getting people's 'highlight reels' and comparing it to ourselves, it is natural to have painful reactions to what we're watching.It's become the new version of 'Keeping up with the Joneses,'" she says.The solution: Limit your friend list to people who are really your friends, unfollow people who make you feel bad (including celebs), and make sure you're spending more time socializing in real life than online.
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Comparing yourself to others can be obviously detrimental, but so can comparing yourself to previous, idealized versions of yourself.How often have you looked in the mirror and compared what you see now to your taut, tanned high-school body? Or remembered how simple things were when your kids were little, compared with their current, teenage selves? Instead of obsessing about how great the past was, remember all the things you've learned on your journey and focus on those,Silva says.
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The basis of comparison is finding what you have that is better or worse--i.e,different--than someone else.But true happiness comes from finding what you have in common with others and connecting with them, Dr.Ranger says."We all experience struggles, pain, and hurt and recognizing and acknowledging that in others will help you feel connected to others rather than feeling 'less' or'better' (and therefore separate) from them", she adds.
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The absolute fastest way to banish bad feelings from comparisons is to focus on all the great things you have, and are, right now.Sure, some other people may have it better or worse than you but you aren't them.Make a list and actually write down things you are grateful for, including material blessings, characteristics about yourself, loved ones, experiences and thoughts.Make it a daily practice and you'll
find your urge to compare is almost entirely extinguished．
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We are often our own harshest critics and that can be magnified by comparisons.Combat this instinct by practicing self-kindness, Dr.Ranger says."This is the act of relating to yourself in an understanding and caring way, in the same way you would treat your closest friend or a child if they were struggling," she says."If you are not harshly judging yourself, then you will be open to positive comparisons,the kind that can inspire hope and spur positive changes in your life."
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